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Friday, April 18, 2014
April 18, 2014 - Step by Step

Step by Step Friday, April 18, 2014 Today, I recommit myself as a loyal and trusting member of the Program and its members who confide in me their Fourth Step and all other communications. I must treat as private all things any members share with me and cannot take for granted that I can share or "gossip" with anyone whatever another member says to me even if there is no stated promise of confidentiality. Failure on my part to treat as private all matters involving any member is a show of disrespect to both the other person and the Program, and disqualifies me as an ethical 12th-Stepper. And, as someone in recovery, I cannot expect that what I share with someone will be treated as a sacred communication if I do not convey the same respect on others. Today, my sobriety carries the responsibility of loyalty, trust and respect of the Program and its members - and they have it. And our common journey continues. Step by step. - Chris M., 2014

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April 18, 2014 - Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Twenty-Four Hours a Day Friday, April 18, 2014 AA Thought for the Day As I look back over my drinking career, have I learned that you take out of life what you put into it? When I put drinking into my life, did I take out a lot of bad things? Hospitals with the DT's? Jails for drunken driving? Loss of job? Loss of home and family? When I put drinking into my life, was almost everything I took out bad? Meditation for the Day I should strive for a friendliness and helpfulness that will affect all who come near to me. I should try to see something to love in them. I should welcome them, bestow little courtesies and understandings on them and help them if they ask for help. I must send no one away without a word of cheer, a feeling that I really care about them. God may have put the impulse in some despairing one's mind to come to me. I must not fail God by repulsing that person. They may not want to communicate with me unless they are sure of a warm welcome. Prayer for the Day I pray that I may warmly welcome all who come to me for help. I pray that I may make them feel that I really care. Hazelden Foundation

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April 18, 2014 - A Day at a Time

A Day at a Time Friday, April 18, 2014 Reflection for the Day We in The Program know full well the futility of trying to overcome our addictions by willpower alone. At the same time, we do know that it takes great willingness to adopt The Program's Twelve Steps as a way of life that can restore us to sanity. No matter how severe our addictions, we discover with relief that choices can still be made. For example, we can choose to admit that we're personally powerless over chemical dependency; that dependence upon a Higher Power is a necessity, even if this be simply dependence upon our group in The Program. Have I chosen to try for a life of honesty and humility, of selfless service to my fellows and to God as I understand Him? Today I Pray God grant me the wisdom to know the difference between "willpower" (which has failed me before) and "willingness" to seek help for my dependency, through Him and through others who are also recovering. May I know that there are choices open to me as there are to my fellow-sufferers in the foggiest stages of addiction. May I choose the kind of life God wants for me. Today I Will Remember Willingness, more than willpower, is the key to recovery. Hazelden Foundation

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April 18, 2014 - The Eye Opener

The Eye Opener Friday, April 18, 2014 It has always been a source of amusement to observe how belligerent people get in religious controversies, and it is usually true that the less religion they practice, the more they are prone to argue about it. A convert is anyone who deserts some other form of religion and accepts yours or mine, while a renegade is one who deserts either yours or mine. Your convert may be my renegade. Those who have the real spirit of the Golden Rule don't have to fight over religion for they have it, they know they have it and they know no one can take it from them. Hazelden Foundation

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April 18, 2014 - Today's Gift from Hazelden

Friday, April 18, 2014 Today's thought from Hazelden is: A problem can ultimately bring us a gift We start our relationship in excitement, hope, and good feelings, with perhaps a measure of fear mixed in. Our history is yet to evolve. A beginning is more a time of romance than reality. But no lasting connection is built on a steady string of good times. Relationships deepen the way individuals do - by meeting the hard times, not accepting defeat, and using difficulty to learn and grow. That is how a problem, something we do not want or choose in our lives, can ultimately bring us a gift. One year the biggest problem a couple dealt with was illness, another year it was a financial pinch, and another year almost everything came easily. Each situation called for new responses from within, yet for the same spiritual attitude of living one day at a time. Looking back, they appreciate the richness of their lives together because they have risen above their problems, grown from them, and had many times of fun and pleasure. Their problems were hard but built their relationship. From the book: The More We Find In Each Other by Merle Fossum and Mavis Fossum The More We Find in Each Other by Merle Fossum and Mavis Fossum

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Thursday, April 17, 2014
April 17, 2014 - Step by Step

Step by Step Thursday, April 17, 2014 Today, if I have avoided honesty in a relationship that was forged in drinking but now is broken because I have moved on to recovery and the other person hasn't, I must confront the possibility that I have out-grown the relationship if the other person chooses not to walk with me in sobriety. Just like the drinking alcoholic who lost his family and gained sobriety but didn't get his family back, so it goes with other relationships. As difficult and painful the decision, the choice may be that my own recovery and sobriety are at the risk if I stay with a partner who is not - and may never be - ready or willing to get better with me. And an unfortunate and unintended product of sobering up may be the self-realization that I might not like the spouse or partner with whom alcohol was the binding glue our relationship. And a tough choice may boil down to the stark fact that I cannot sacrifice my sobriety to salvage a relationship that, in recovery, may not be healthy enough to salvage. Today, if I have to end a relationship because I am becoming healthier and the other person is becoming sicker, I need only to look to the members of my group for validation. And our common journey continues. Step by step. - Chris M., 2014

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April 17, 2014 - Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Twenty-Four Hours a Day Thursday, April 17, 2014 AA Thought for the Day Every time we go to an AA meeting, every time we say the Lord's prayer, every time we have a quiet time before breakfast, we're paying a premium on our insurance against taking that first drink. And every time we help another alcoholic, we're making a large payment on our drink insurance. We're making sure that our policy doesn't lapse. Am I building up an endowment in serenity, peace and happiness that will put me on easy street for the rest of my life? Meditation for the Day I gain faith by my own experience of God's power in my life. The constant, persistent recognition of God's spirit in all my personal relationships, the ever-accumulating weight of evidence in support of God's guidance, the numberless instances in which seeming chance or wonderful coincidence can be traced to God's purpose in my life. All these things gradually engender a feeling of wonder, humility and gratitude to God. These in turn are followed by a more sure and abiding faith in God and His purposes. Prayer for the Day I pray that my faith may be strengthened every day. I pray that I may find confirmation of my life in the good things that have come into my life. Hazelden Foundation

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April 17, 2014 - A Day at a Time

A Day at a Time Thursday, April 17, 2014 Reflection for the Day The Program teaches me to remain on guard against impatience, lapses into self-pity and resentments of the words and deeds of others. Though I must never forget what it used to be like, neither should I permit myself to take tormenting excursions into the past - merely for the sake of self-indulgent morbidity. Now that I'm alert to the danger signals, I know I'm improving day by day. If a crisis arises, or any problem baffles me, do I hold it up to the light of the Serenity Prayer? Today I Pray I pray for perspective as I review the past. May I curb my impulse to upstage and out-do the members of my group by regaling them with the horrors of my addiction. May I no longer use the past to document my self-pity or submerge myself in guilt. May memories of those miserable earlier days serve me only as sentinels, guarding against hazardous situations or unhealthy sets of mind. Today I Will Remember I cannot change the past. Hazelden Foundation

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April 17, 2014 - The Eye Opener

The Eye Opener Thursday, April 17, 2014 Loneliness drives more people to the Gin Mill than almost any other single factor - perhaps even the compulsion to drink. In the old days when our society was objectionable to all our old friends, we would from sheer boredom go to the bar just to talk to someone. Anyone's conversation was preferable to our thoughts. The drink was frequently an incidental. Boredom is still one of our worst enemies. If you have an AA club, there is always some guy you can try to help. Regardless of your effect on him, the experience is bound to help you and will relieve you of your blues. Hazelden Foundation

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April 17, 2014 - Today's Gift from Hazelden

Thursday, April 17, 2014 Today's thought from Hazelden is: The purpose of learning is growth, and our minds, unlike our bodies, can continue growing as we continue to live. -- Mortimer Adler In some areas of our lives we are right on target. Our level of maturity is exactly as it should be, and we are going through the stages that people of our age ought to be going through. In other areas, this is not so. We are complex people, irregular, uneven. In all of us there are areas fixated in some emotional ice age, areas that have not felt the freeing warmth of the sun. We cannot expect ourselves to move forward all at once. Not only is it okay to move slowly — it's often the only way it can be. Confusion, conflict, or pain may have caused us to let our memories or feelings be frozen safely away. This has been a long process, and we can allow ourselves more time to heal. The task now is not to deny or hide from these changes, but to have confidence that the healing warmth of the program will reflect on all areas of our lives and help make us whole. I am thankful I am given both time and patience in which to continue my growth. You are reading from the book: Days of Healing, Days of Joy by Earnie Larsen and Carol Larsen Hegarty Days of Healing, Days of Joy by Earnie Larsen and Carol Larsen Hegarty

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